How To Raise Kind and Loving Children

When your baby is first handed to you, you know that there is a God, because this sweet child looks so angelic and needy in your arms. I remember when my son came out of the delivery room to announce the birth of my granddaughter. The only time he was more beautiful to me was when I saw his baby face for the first time.

But soon it starts. How do I raise this child not to be a spoiled brat? How do I keep her from being bullied? How do I teach her values that are important to her parents and the society she will live in?

The most important lessons anyone learns are not taught in school. They are modeled positively or negatively by those around them. Parents and Grandparents have a unique opportunity to create a committed value plan for their children. They can have a say and a goal for their children that will make it a loving environment for all.

How do you do this? Well you start by talking about those goals with all of those who are involved with your child’s life. Then you write them down.

Values should be listed and reviewed often. Some examples are: Sharing, gentleness, safety, eating good food, tolerance. Making pictures of these and using them to remind the child can be the first intervention. Make sure that all caregivers of the child are on the same page. If he or she goes to daycare make sure the daycare provider has the same rules you do at home.

Always be kind gentle caring never be angry. That is easier said than done sometimes.

What if you are angry? Then you need time out. We always expect the child to have time out, but sometimes adults need to gather themselves together too. Time out should not be a punishment but a time for solving problems. A “think about it” time would be one suggestion.

Ask the child; do you want or fix it or do you want a consequence? I will give you some think time. Limit the “think time” with a timer. Give them two options, more time or ready to talk. Are you ready to come out and talk now? Still feel frustrated? This question helps them to own their own behavior and control it.

Are you hungry?

Are you tired?

Do not expect compliance or even an answer all of the time. Some times, the child doesn’t even know what they are doing or why they acted out. All interventions learned today, might be appropriate to prevent the behavior on another day. Good Luck! And more later. Grandma G

Research from Corwin Kronenberg, Teaching Kids to be Responsible Tested by Grandma Jacquie

Let me introduce myself. My name is Jacquie. I just turned 58 and I feel like it is time to really get out there and give something to this world. I am a wife mother and grandmother. I have had many experiences that make me wise and many others that make me grateful that there are second chances in life.

I am a wife. I don't claim to be an expert in this area. I do however, want to make this the best marriage that I can.

I am a mother, this I was very good at and have many experiences that would help out a newly single mom.

I am a Grandmother of two girls one 18 and one 1. What wonders they are. They are also part of why I want to learn more every day and help as many parents out there that I can.

So lets get started my first topics will be on children, discipline and helpful hints about teenagers. I hope to have many discussions on these topics and more as we get to know each other. Please comment and tell me what you would like to know more about.
Thanks Grandma G